What is the protocol for shower gift and wedding gift?
June 8th, 2009 | 
Author: =^;^=Spay and Neuter=^;^= asked:
I went to my cousins wedding shower and paid 50.00 for a gift. Do I still get a wedding gift too? How much to spend??
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Category: Wedding Gift | 
Tags: Cousins, Protocol, Shower Gift, Wedding Gift, Wedding Shower | 
6 Comments »
present idea
Yes! If you plan on attending her wedding you NEED to get her another gift for that too. Depending on how close you are to her I’d say you should spend between $25-$100
…Sorry rules is rules.
gift wrap
yes you are supposed to get wedding gift too – or give money. money is what every couple wants and needs most.
the average cost of a wedding is $50 per person, so give $50 or if you bring a date give $100 to cover your own plates.
presents
IMO, absolutely. The wedding and the shower are two different events. IMO, it’s also very rude to attend an event like a shower or a wedding and not bring a gift.
A few years ago, my SIL got married. I bought her a shower gift, it was $50. Two months later, I gave her and her new husband $100 cash inside of a card.
It was the going rate and they were family. So, I felt I needed to give and I wanted too. I was a full-time college student at the time. I didn’t have a lot of money, but I’m very big on etiquette, so that’s another reason I gave.
I’m not sure how close you are to your cousin. But, I’m very close to my cousins. So, I absolutely would be showering her with gifts at both her shower and her wedding.
gifts for dad
I would do a money gift, 75 dollars since it is the wedding gift should be more than the shower gift
gift ideas
I think only a few people should come to bridal shower your close friends and relatives(usu women) . If you get a gift from them at the shower you dont expect one at the wedding. No one can afford two gifts.
gift wrap
You should have asked someone else who was going OR check out her registry. Shower gifts are generally something smaller for the kitchen like a laundry basket filled with soaps, or tea towels and potholders or a cool set of measuring cups…usually about $20 to $25. or even less. You could have purchased a set of very good steak knives on sale for $15.00! Wedding gifts are generally more substantial and, as a cousin, a $50.00 gift would be very generous. As you have already over-spent for the shower gift, I think you’d be very generous if you got them a bottle of wine and 2 nice glasses for a total of about $35.00… or maybe two bathsheets on sale at Linens and Things for $13. each….. no one should be concerned with how much you spent on them. A grateful and polite couple would say a sincere thank you for a pair of salt and pepper shakers!!