Should I take a chance or let the friendship go? I’m confused?
Well, me and a friend were friends for about 2 yrs. Then she got pregnant, and she changed. She told me I was getting on her nerves. She never told me why but, I figured it was because her husband and I had a good relationship too (like I said, I considered them family) and he came over on several occasions to work on different things around our house. My husband is not an “outside” person. He doesn’t know how to do much house repairs so since he did, I asked him to do a lot of things. I don’t know if she thought something was going on but, it wasn’t. Anyway, she had her child in May, I’ve only seen her a couple of times since then. I, since then, had a baby. She never called or emailed me to ask how I was doing nor did she get me anything when I was pregnant or when my baby was born. All of a sudden, I started my new job at a daycare and she puts her son there and her son and my other daughter are in the same class. Well, she saw my daughter and found out I was working there and she came all the way across the building looking for me. Then she talked to me for awhile, asked me to do lunch with her sometime & then said she had a gift for my baby and just hadn’t got it to her. SO, then she left and when she came back yesterday afternoon to pick up her son. I was working in her son’s room and she said, wow seeing you twice in one day and then she gave me a gift for my baby. I was in shock, I guess she went home, got the gift and brought it back to me. But, I’m so flabbergasted. I don’t know what to feel. I mean, it’s been almost a year without any conversations with her. A part of me wants to rekindle the friendship, but a part of me is very leery. What do you think?
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I think that she may have gotten really tied up in her own life and your relationship got caught in the mix. Consider that she may have had PPD. This is the kind of thing that snowballs on a depressed person. They don’t call for a week, so then they feel bad, but are embarrassed to call and have to explain why they didn’t call. So they don’t call. Then after a month, they really can’t face the questions. So on and so on. I’ve been there. Mine was not due to having a child, just from depression in general.
It seems clear that she doesn’t resent you for any reason, so I suspect the reason your friendship crumbled is on her end. It also sounds like she is trying to make amends. See where it takes you and when you feel comfortable to do so, ask her what happened. But try to do it in a sensitive, non-confrontational way.
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sometimes people just end up shutting themselves off from everyone when they have a baby and then they regret it but feel like they can’t just call you or something because they’re embarrassed and feel bad for just dropping you.
so now she got the opportunity to see you coincidentally and she’s trying to make up for it and rekindle what once was.
if you want to you should slowly work on having a friendship again and once you’ve gotten past the awkwardness ask her flat out what happened.
good luck
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you prob ticked her off asking her husband to do all that stuff for you, hire a handy man, i feel like you should just proceed cautiously, she is human and obviously busy with her own family, dont take life so seriously she was prob not in a good place
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Pregnancy and the birth of a baby can put stress on people and their relationships. It’s quite possible she was jealous and didn’t realize it at the time.
I would meet her for lunch and after playing a little bit of catch up, tell her you missed her and ask what happened over this past year. Be honest, but do not attack…that will just push her away and become defensive. That happened to me and my best friend and we are closer than ever now.