Is it okay to send a wedding gift to a couple before the wedding?
June 8th, 2009 | 
Author: Boston asked:
My friends are getting married next month. They are going back to their hometown for the wedding, which is halfway across the country from where they live. I don’t live in their hometown either. I wanted to give them a particularly large gift from their wedding registry. Is it okay to send it to them before the wedding? That way I won’t have to travel with the large gift and they won’t have to lug it back home after the wedding.
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Category: Wedding Gift | 
Tags: Friends, Hometown, Travel, Wedding Gift, Wedding Gift Registry | 
8 Comments »
present idea
It’s not only OK, it’s correct. Consider the problems created when guests bring gifts to the wedding. The hosts have to either lock them up or have someone watch them to prevent theft. Then they have to schlepp all the stuff home. Cards get separated from gifts and writing thank you letters becomes a guessing game.
It’s also correct to send your gift AFTER the wedding. I’m sad to say that I actually advise this. I had purchased a magnificent set of crystal stem ware for a favorite nephew and his bride. The couple believed their photo album to be more important than their duties to their guests and left us to amuse ourselves for a full 2 two hours between ceremony and reception. I exchanged the crystal for a set of kitchen towels and enjoyed a lovely lunch at Cafe L’Europe on the difference.
gift
yes, people do that all the time.
present idea
Oh definitely! Even if you were going to the wedding you could give it to them before hand since its so big. Thats totally fine. You can either have it mailed or just give it to them in person. I think either way is fine!
gifts for women
Not only is it okay, but it is desirable to do it that way. It’s considered poor etiquette to bring the gift to the wedding. You should send it before (or after) the wedding to either the bride’s home or her mother’s.
gift boxes
Yes, it’s actually the preferred way to give a wedding gift. According to all the wedding etiquette books I’ve read (and lately I’ve read quite a few), it is actually not considered proper etiquette to bring an actual gift to the wedding. You’re either supposed to send it to the couple in the weeks or months leading up to the wedding, or you just bring them a check or cash gift. In recent years, it’s become acceptable to have a “gift table” at the wedding reception, but old-school etiquette people still say that’s not correct. So to answer your question, yes, send the gift straight from the registry to their house.
present idea
I would say that it depends on the situation. For example, if you where invited to their wedding and you wernt going to be able to make it but you wanted to get something for them for theri wedding then you might give it to them early or give it to a trusted individual who will be attending the wedding to place on the gift table.
gifts for dad
That is very thoughtful of you! It’s okay to send a gift before the wedding, but what if something happen and “God forbid” you still have time to get you money back. You can like give it to them if you don’t mind.. But of course it’s okay!!!
gift baskets
Yes, you can send the gift to their address, under their gift registry.