A bigger gift because I’m in the wedding?
July 18th, 2009 | 
Author: Andrew S asked:
My best friend is getting married and I’m in the wedding party. Traditionally do those who are in the wedding party give more as a gift than if just invited or less considering the tux rental, bachelor party, etc.?
Thanks in advance for your feedback.
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Category: Bachelor Party | 
Tags: Bachelor Party, Best Friend, Thanks In Advance, Tux Rental, Wedding Party | 
6 Comments »
I told my bridal party that their participation in the wedding was our gift. But if you choose to give a gift I would say less of a gift than if just invited.
I did not expect gifts from my bridal party, but 2 of them did get me a gift. 2 did not.
In my opinion, whether or not you are in the wedding should have no bearing on the gift. Give a gift from your heart, whatever feels right.
Bridal Parties shouldn’t have to get you a gift.. they already spend so much getting their dresses, tuxes, hair, etc. Traditionally the Bride/Groom get the groomsmen and bridesmaids a gift for all they have done.
It really depends on what you can afford and what the expectations of the bridal couple is.
Generally the bridal couple should not expect any kind of gift from you. You likely have spent a good deal of money on showers, parties, rentals etc. You have also been there as a support to the bride and groom. That, along with your presence standing at their side during their vows is your gift to them. If they are having a much more casual wedding and/or did not expect parties, expensive rentals etc, you are welcome to give them a gift off their registry.
Even if you have spent plenty of money on the couple during the engagement and for the wedding, you can get them a gift of your choice if you have the finances for it. Sometimes a bridal party will go in on a gift together.
Do not feel obligated to spend more money than you are able to. Show your love and support for the couple by being a great friend.
Just give them the normal amount of money you usually give at weddings. Remember, they’re still paying for your plate (and your guests if your bringing one)
I did not expect any gifts from my bridal party, they had already spent enough, on dresses, tuxedos and our bachelor and bachelorette parties.
In my family it is not required that the bridal party do anything but stand with the couple on their special day.